Sometimes we get stuck and feel trapped by our experiences and our day-to-day life. The sensation of being stuck can be compounded by a history of depression, anxiety, shame, substance use, trauma, high risk behaviors, and other problems we encounter.
If this sounds like you, we would like the opportunity to help you learn to manage your experiences, empower you to break through the challenges you have encountered, and work on becoming a preferred or ideal version of yourself in order to heal.
The work we do together can allow you to build and enhance your strengths, minimize and plan for your limitations, and give you hope and opportunities to make the changes you desire.
Ultimately our goal is to see you succeed at the goals you would like to set for yourself, and how we are able to help accompany you along your journey.
Specializing in Addiction, Trauma, Anxiety, Depression, Shame, and Men's Issues
Addiction tends to make us feel trapped in behavior(s) and thoughts that seem difficult to break leave a sense of feeling stuck, overwhelmed, trapped, and hopeless. Sometimes addiction leads to significant consequences and problems making this feeling exacerbated.
Addiction tends to isolate us, adding to the problem, as we feel others could not understand our plight.
Our traumatic experiences tend to create a sense of feeling there is no hope or opportunity for things to get better. It can often be debilitating as well as we tend to justify and rationalize it. Other times we minimize our trauma because it is not as bad as it could have been or what others experienced. Trauma is often individualized and it is important to take ownership of our own experiences, thoughts, and feelings rather than trying to compare them to someone else.
Anxiety has a positive component as it helps us enter into a flight or flight response based on what we are currently or anticipate experiencing.
Anxiety can be difficult yet manageable with the use of appropriate coping skills. When we use anxiety as a reason to find escapism coping tools it often will manifest into bigger concerns and problems.
Depression often times gets mixed up with sadness, which may often be a symptom of depression yet it is not the only experience of depression. It leaves us feeling lethargic, numb, and a desire to isolate from others. Sometimes the idea of simply getting out of bed can be mentally exhausting and feel nearly impossible. We may often ask questions related to "what is the point?" It tends to be cyclical with other mental health; therefore when we experience additional mental health stressors depression tends to contribute and be enhanced.
Shame is a toxic parasitic thought process that feeds off of your negative energy and emotions. It is an "adopted" thought process we often use to be in alignment or attune to someone we typically identify as significant. Often we feel we deserve to feel bad for something that has happened and take ownership of the situation. Rather than us deserving to feel this way, guilt is the sense that we feel bad about something we did and is our motivator to not want to feel a certain way again; whereas shame keeps us wallowing and trapped in the sense of shame as this is our penance.
As guys we are supposed to be "strong, tough, macho, etc." The old ideas/sayings of "rub some dirt on it" or "real men don't cry" indicate a sense of not knowing how men need to be able to process their feelings, thoughts, and emotions. This does not mean you have to cry or be overly emotional, what it does mean is that we are often conditioned to think that these things are beneath us or irrelevant. Men need an appropriate sounding board and an opportunity to process in an environment that they can also feel welcome.